Whether you realize you’re doing it or not, you’re sending your children messages, constantly. They’re internalizing the information that you surround them with, the things that they hear most from you and from others people they interact with. Whether it’s at home, at school, or at the fencing club. That information and those messages are sometimes verbal, and sometimes they aren’t, but they are always heard.
The toughest part is figuring out not only the right messages to send to your kids, and it’s just not just how to communicate those messages, it’s also in decoding which messages you’re sending without even realizing it. For me personally, thinking about this subject has helped me to make some positive changes in my own parenting, because I was inadvertently sending some messages that I didn’t realize I was sending.