This post was borne out of my personal parental experience at 2019 Fencing Summer Nationals in Columbus, OH, watching as my kids lost their bouts. How they cried. How they struggled. How they processed their defeat. How they talked about their lost bout afterwards, never right away.
Inside a kid fencer’s mind after a lost bout
For a parent, it is always difficult to watch your child cry. You understand that they are crying out of frustration. You know that they put a huge amount of effort into their training. They are now asking themselves tough questions like these:
- “Am I worth it?”
- “Am I any good at fencing?”
- “Is all of this hard work even worth it?”
- “Am I doing anything right? Can I do anything right?”
- “Why is she/he better than me?”
- “Why does this girl/boy train for half the time that I do and still beat me?”
- “Why are the refs so bad, calling for my opponent all the time?”
They might even start to ask themselves the really tough question.
- “Should I just quit fencing?”