What do you do when your child wants the really expensive fencing gear?
Today I’ll start with the tale of my son. For more than two years he’s been asking for a Leon Paul mask; this shiny-all-american-flag-champion-like mask. He started asking me about it when he was just seven and a half. Yes, a first grader dreamed about a mask that costs almost three hundred bucks! Does he want it because it’s the finest in fencing gear? No. Does he want it because it will help him to be a better fencer? Nope. Comfort? Uh uh. He wants it because it looks cool, because the champion fencers wear them, and because it’s different than the other fencing masks he’s seen. The biggest reason is this last one – because it’s different. (A note that in this particular case it had nothing to do with peer pressure as none of his friends have these masks).
My first tactic was to try to show him that champion fencers don’t need fancy equipment. I told him that Michael Johnson won four Olympic games medals and eight world championships not because of his famous golden shoes, but the opposite – he got them after he mastered his running style and became a well known runner. My son was silent.
My second tactic was to talk sense to him. I tried to explain him that because we can afford this “golden mask” does not mean we should buy it. He did not say a word.
The third tactic was trying to talk about him in terms of his age. I tried to hint that this kind of fancy mask would probably look odd and unflattering on 7 years old beginner fencer. He frowned quietly.
Ok, time to bring in the big guns. My fourth and final tactic was to show him the absurdity of the amount of money. I invited him to save his own money and get this golden mask. That was the ticket – he smiled.
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